Good Evening to All!
(3) The name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife, Abigail....(14) Now one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal's wife, saying, "Look, David sent messengers from the wilderness to greet our master; and he reviled them....(18) Then Abigail made haste and took two hundred loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five sheep already dressed, five seahs of roasted grain, one hundred clusters of raisins, and two hundred cakes of figs, and loaded them on donkeys. ... (23) Now when Abigail saw David, she dismounted quickly from the donkey, fell on her face before David, and bowed down to the ground. .... (32) Then David said to Abigail: "blessed is the LORD God of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me!
(1 Samuel 25:3, 14, 18, 23, 32 NKJV)
This passage came about because David had protected Nabal's property, but when David asked him for food provisions for his army, the man refused. Now, from the sounds of it, Nabal was not a poor man. He could afford to do this, but was "stingy". This was all happening during a feast that Nabal was holding for his workers celebrating the sheep shearing, so David really expected Nabal to be particularly generous on this occasion. Unfortunately, Nabal was living up to his name which meant "fool". He really showed himself to be a foolish man.
Luckily Abigail was able to discern how to appease David, and jumped into action by giving him all of the food named above. She understood that the way to a man's heart is through appetizing food. (Which still holds true today in many cases).
When she met David, he had already been anointed as the next king of Israel, and she asked that all blame be on her and that David not take vengeance himself for Nabal's foolishness.
Abigail spoke to David, a man deeply devoted to God, and acknowledged that David fought for God. She really know how to relate to men. She connected to David's need and faith. David responded and blessed God, noted that God has sent her, and let God deal with her husband. Nabal soon died, and David then married Abigail.
Now we know where that quote originated from. I personally have seen results from this very thing many times. However, I wonder if it wasn't that PLUS the idea that she went against her husband's wishes to do the right thing that softened David's heart.
Incidentally, the way to my man's heart is with a HUGE piece of Prime Rib with Au jus sauce, large Baked Potato with sour cream, and a salad, and ice cream for desert. LOL!
Good Night To All and May God bless!