Good Morning to All!
First of all, I would like to thank all of my readers for hanging in there with me and my "intermittent posts.
One of the explicit teachings of the Bible is the importance of the words we speak. God tells us that our tongue is the most unruly member of our body. Words can be used to build us up OR to tear us down. In the same instance we must remember that this too means we either edify God, or tear Him down as well.
When we use words to put others down, criticize or be negative, we must remember that we are doing this to God's creation, therefore, just as He told the disciples when they gave someone drink, food, or attention, they were doing it to Him, when we put others down, or are saying negative things to others, we are doing it to Him as well. He talks about this in Matthew 25:40.
He even says that we are to do this for our enemies. How much plainer can He be?
If we will keep in mind Philippians 4:8 which says, "Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, if there be any praise, think o0n these things. (9) Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
God tells us all through His Word that we must strive for perfection (completion) as He is perfect. He tells us we must be "Christlike". Why do so many of us "mankind" think that just because He gave us free will that we don't have to abide by "His will for us"?
When a mother tells her child "don't touch the hot stove because it will burn you", and they do it anyway, they get burned. The same applies to God's guidance as well. His Word constantly gives us guidance on how to make the best of the life HE GAVE US, yet we continually think we can do better.
If we will treat others better, build them up with encouragement rather than tear them down with criticism, our life will be so much fuller. I know this because I have been on both sides of the fence. I have BEEN criticized, and I have DONE the criticizing. I have very low self-esteem because of the effects of others criticizing me, yet I have done it to others. I have seen the damage I have inflicted on others because of my words.
When I finally got serious about my relationship with God and understood that my relationship needed to be shown through my actions as well as "just saying" I am a Christian, my life made a 180 degree turn for the better.
Try it and see. It was not easy at first, I kept slipping back into my "old ways", but, I kept praying and asking forgiveness. I am not perfect, and I have to make a conscious effort to say the "right things, because unfortunately, we were originally born in sin, therefore our fleshly nature tends to lean to the sinful nature easier than our spiritual nature.
The more we consciously say positive and complimentary things to others the easier it becomes.
Well, I better close for now as my time on this connection is coming to an end.
I hope this has encouraged someone to think about what they say to others and be a "builder" instead of a "wrecking ball" to others self-esteem.
Have a wonderful day and MAY GOD BLESS!